Most relationships are built around roles.
We recognize people by the roles they’ve played in our lives: parents, siblings, partners, friends. What we often miss is the person underneath.
But everyone has a life that doesn't fit inside their role. The version of themselves before. The thoughts they don't share. The lessons that shaped them. The fears they still carry. The parts of themselves the people closest to them have never thought to ask about.
The Rest of You is a series of books built around 136 questions for each relationship. The goal is simple: to make space for the person behind the role. To learn more about the ones you love before the chance to ask is gone.
“These books aren’t interviews. They aren’t journals. They’re invitations.”
You give someone the book. They answer in their own way, in their own time. You receive what they choose to share.
What comes back is theirs.
The series
Each book centers on a different relationship: father, mother, brother, sister, partner, friend, grandfather, grandmother.
The structure stays the same. The questions change. Each one written for that specific person.
One is available now. The rest are on the way.
This series began with a single question: how is it that the people we know longest are sometimes the ones we ask the least?
Whether the right space never opened up, or the idea simply never came up, I wanted to make one. A safe place to ask the questions most of us never think to ask until much later in life. Sometimes too late.
Many of the books out there only touch the surface. I wanted to know what was underneath. That's how The Rest of You came to be.
